So You Want to Find a Russian Bride?

Most divorced and separated men, usually after a period living alone, reach a stage in their life when they think about starting a new relationship, with a view to settling down again. At that point most will have tried finding a woman by the usual and more often than not 'hit and miss' social contact route, introduced through friends and colleagues, or chance meeting down the pub, or at the supermarket!

For many the opportunity to meet someone is severely limited, perhaps through busy work schedule, or there are children to look after from the previous relationship.

Lots of men will try the personal ad route in their local paper, either advertising themselves or responding to ads. Some will 'graduate' to dating agencies and spend time on internet dating sites, trying to meet someone special.

Sooner or later an advert will appear on the computer pointing toward website offering "Beautiful Russian Brides" or similar. Clicking on one of the very many websites available will immediately display a range of stunning looking ladies, often working as lawyer, doctor, dentist or similarly well-qualified professional.

At this point I need to own up that the former scenario describes my own personal situation perfectly. Through benefit of experience, both good and bad, I am going to point out some of the pitfalls and traps of embarking on finding a wife from the former Soviet Union countries.

The first thing to remember is that there are a lot of highly skilled and practised 'scammers' to be extremely wary of. Most of the dating agencies providing the service will ask for payment up-front to allow you to contact some of their clients. It is worth asking for references from other users before making any payment.

Once you have access to the site and start making contact, you still need to be aware that many are 'honey-traps' set for you to fall into. Some of the ladies will not be 'real', insofar as photos of a beautiful young lady will be displayed on the screen, behind which will lurk a scammer, usually with reasonable grasp of English, waiting to lure you into the trap.

The best way to avoid this pitfall is to stretch out the communication and wait for the moment when the subject of money will arise. When it does, the chances are you are being set up. You will probably be asked to send money by cash transfer to pay for: air fare to meet you; urgent medical treatment for your virtual date or their family, or money for a range of other reasons. My advice to you is to be careful, as you may be about to get scammed.

By trial and error, the chances are you will eventually meet someone on the net that won't ask you for money, which is a good, positive sign that they are likely to be genuine.

Finding a lady from former Soviet Union is always going to pose a risk. At some point you will feel positive about the lady you have met and you will want to meet her. This will usually require a significant investment in time and money. Obtaining a visa is an onerous task and can be time-consuming for some states. Make sure you don't book your flight until you receive your visa. If it's delayed for any reason you will probably lose the price of the air fare.

Hotels can be very expensive, especially in Moscow. It may be worth arranging to rent an apartment instead of paying for hotel.

Make sure your first trip to meet is not for too long. Book your trip for just a few days, or maximum of one week. If you don't hit it off then spending two-weeks on your own may leave you wishing you had not booked your trip for more than a few days!

The first meeting can be an extension of the honey-trap. I have spoken to people that have flown to Moscow and been fleeced by a woman that has conned them into asked going on expensive shopping trips, and for dinner at extortionately priced restaurants. If this happens to you then you need to spot the 'writing on the wall' and make your retreat as best you can.

I met my wife in Tashkent in Uzbekistan, which is a particularly repugnant, dictatorial, police state. The people are very friendly, generous and kind, but the administration is particularly difficult for westerner to tolerate and it can be quite scary! Make sure you do your homework on the country where you plan to travel before you decide to apply for the visa.

Assuming that you meet the woman of your dreams and you feel you are a good match, the natural conclusion will be that you will want her to come and live with you. This is where things really do start to get difficult. Obtaining visa is a minefield.

Many men are surprised to find out that you can't simply marry abroad and bring their new wife home, to both live happily ever-after!

The easiest and cheapest option is to apply for a tourist visa. This will require your lady to have evidence of income such as bank statements etc. As salaries are so low in Soviet countries this may prove very difficult to get, or be sufficient to satisfy the Embassy, which will jeopardize chance of getting a tourist visa.

It is possible to get a 'fiancée' visa. In the UK this will allow you to bring your lady to the UK and give you a chance to get to know each other before tying the knot. To obtain a 'fiancée' visa you will need to ensure you have kept full records of all your telephone and email contact, evidence of visits such as flight tickets, photos, room bookings. It is unlikely that you will get a 'fiancée' visa unless you have met previously.

You should not expect much assistance from Embassy staff. It is their job to make life as difficult as possible for you! Remember they can refuse your visa application for myriad of reasons, so ensure you do your research on what is required to avoid disappointment.

If you can overcome all the bureaucratic obstacles and eventually manage to get your lady back home to your country and marry, like me you will not regret the difficulties endured dealing with seemingly implacable Embassy staff and Government Agencies.

Bill Bailey is freelance writer and journalist. Bill is very happily married to Irina his beautiful Russian Bride! Bill's website is http://www.schnafflehound.com

Common Mistakes While Looking for a Russian Wife

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If you are a single Western or American man looking for your future wife on different dating websites, you might have been surprised at the abundance of online resources introducing you to the beautiful Russian and Slavic women. We will not discuss the issue of their popularity in this article though, and will concentrate on the most common mistakes made by single men looking for Russian wives.

· Not Sure about your Intentions

Online communications with Russian ladies can be real fun, but it is not playing around that they expect from you. When a Russian woman registers with a reliable international marriage agency, she is seriously determined to find a committed partner and husband, not just a pen friend. She is looking for loving and fulfilling family relationships. Are you sure your intentions are that serious? Ask yourself this question before you go for it, because it is a challenge. Remember that the decision to marry her implies going to Russia, learning about the new culture and language, meeting different people, both good and bad, spending your money, being prepared to non-trivial situations, etc. If you doubt that all of it is worth it, you'd better stay where you are.

· Wrong Choice of Dating Websites

Be very careful with the sites you register at. When your intentions are serious and you are looking for a lady with marriage in mind, avoid fishy dating sites that can be flooded with scammers. Also, think twice before placing a picture of yours in a men's catalogue where you where nothing but bathing trunks. A smart Russian lady looking for a serious relationship will not swallow the bait. Choose reliable agencies which services can be trusted.

· Believing that Your Life won't Change after Getting Married

When you finally take your wife home with you, the adaptation period is going to take a lot of time and effort from both of you. It is going to be harder for her though, because it is she who will have to adapt to the new environment, not you. Be with her during this period and help her learn more about your country, family, friends, job opportunities, etc. Be understanding and loving, and it will work out for you.

Sex And Russian Women

By John Kunkle

Most Russian women, as well as Russians in general, are somewhat reserved. Do not be put off if the Russian woman you are courting seems a little standoffish.

This is appropriate behavior for a Russian woman. It does not mean that she does not like you. It means that she hardly knows you, which is true.

Beware if a Russian woman shows too much emotion too soon. Her feelings may not be genuine under these circumstances. Russians are not as outgoing as Americans, so do not be put off if she is not as outgoing as the girls back home. It is not their nature.

In general, the majority of Russian women have a difficult time expressing their feelings, so be patient.

Ukrainian women tend to be a little more outgoing than Russian women. Russians are more reserved. At the same time a Ukrainian wife is more likely to argue about things than a Russian wife.

Belarusian women are somewhat in between Russians and Ukrainians in personality. Of course, these are generalizations and every woman is different.

People in Russia do not show affection in public. Kissing, hugging, touching each other, and other displays of affection is supposed to happen behind closed doors.

Holding her hand while walking is considered appropriate. Opening car doors and other forms of courtesy is expected.

Do not talk about sex with a Russian woman. Sex is supposed to happen ‘naturally’. It is not something you discuss like a medical operation.

The American habit of clinical discussion of sexual positions and preferences is considered abhorrent to Russians. Sex is supposed to be felt rather than discussed.

Once you are married, you may have to discuss sex in more detail, but a Russian woman has a preference for passion over technique. Show her your passion. Don’t talk about it.

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Inside Look On Being Married To A Russian Wife

Jason, a slender, sandy blonde-haired man with sharp blue eyes and Tatiana, a tall, brunette with sparkling brown eyes, have been married nearly five years. At first they appear to be an average middle American couple, but as soon as Tatiana begins to speak, the difference is obvious. Tatiana is not American at all. She is a Russian wife. Some estimates suggest around 10,000 marriages a year between American men and Russian women, many through Russian matchmaking agencies. As with all marriages, there is no guarantee of success, but many couples say the pairings are perfect. In fact, USCIS recent survey found that divorce rate in marriages involving Russian wives is lower than USA national average.

Jason met his wife using online Russian matchmaking agency. They exchanged correspondence and after a while he visited Tatiana in her home town. Before long, Jason decided to invite Tatiana to USA for a visit. One and a half years later they were married and his Russian wife moved to America permanently.

Tatiana writes from home and takes care of the couple's 7-year-old son, Jacob. She, like many Russian women, takes great care of her appearance and rarely leaves the house without applying her makeup. She and Jason also attend a twice-weekly ballroom and salsa dance class that helps her stay fit. "Russian women simply do not gain weight the way American women do," she laughs, "it is because we must learn to be moderate very young. There are not a lot..." she pauses, searching for the word, "of choices in Russia."

In general, Russian women looking for American husbands already know English, although not necessarily as well as a native speaker. They also may not have had experience with things like credit cards and ATM's. However, this does not mean they are backward or unintelligent. Many Russians simply learned to prefer cash over banks after the collapse of the Soviet Union in the 1990's. Usually these are intelligent, educated women who, either due to circumstance (statistically there are far fewer Russian men than women) or a desire to try for a better life, have come to desire marriage with an American.

Tatiana and Jason have such a happy successful marriage because both came to the altar ready to compromise and work together. It is sometimes suggested by agency sites that connect American men with Russian women that all Russian women want a traditional marriage and are willing "slaves" to their husbands. This is not true. Many women are looking for a stable marriage and, most importantly, a good husband. What this can mean depends on the man and woman. Russian women are, traditionally, raised to be more compromising and flexible, after all, this is a country where it is expected that people work together and families are very important. One sticking point for some marriages is that Russian women are not necessarily as passionate about Christianity as an American man may expect. Tatiana and Jason have no such problems as Jason is agnostic. "I am able to let him live his lifestyle," Tatiana says, "for me, religion is just a part of life, not something to push forward all the time."

A common myth is that a Russian wife is submissive and a virtual slave to her husband and family. The truth is Russian woman can be just as independent and strong as American women, but their strength is shown through their recognition of the need to compromise and adapt to situations. Tatiana's wry, cynical sense of humor is usual for Russian women as well. "She tells it like it is," Jason laughs, "but is willing to work with me to find ways to make our life work. She's no submissive wife, but she's also not going to chase me around with a frying pan."

"That's what you think," Tatiana responds.

*names have been changed at the couple's request.

A story about how an American man married a Russian woman. Couple explains some challenges they had to overcome and compromises they had to agree on. Also covers common myths and misunderstandings about Russian women and their traditions.

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