So You Want to Find a Russian Bride?

Most divorced and separated men, usually after a period living alone, reach a stage in their life when they think about starting a new relationship, with a view to settling down again. At that point most will have tried finding a woman by the usual and more often than not 'hit and miss' social contact route, introduced through friends and colleagues, or chance meeting down the pub, or at the supermarket!

For many the opportunity to meet someone is severely limited, perhaps through busy work schedule, or there are children to look after from the previous relationship.

Lots of men will try the personal ad route in their local paper, either advertising themselves or responding to ads. Some will 'graduate' to dating agencies and spend time on internet dating sites, trying to meet someone special.

Sooner or later an advert will appear on the computer pointing toward website offering "Beautiful Russian Brides" or similar. Clicking on one of the very many websites available will immediately display a range of stunning looking ladies, often working as lawyer, doctor, dentist or similarly well-qualified professional.

At this point I need to own up that the former scenario describes my own personal situation perfectly. Through benefit of experience, both good and bad, I am going to point out some of the pitfalls and traps of embarking on finding a wife from the former Soviet Union countries.

The first thing to remember is that there are a lot of highly skilled and practised 'scammers' to be extremely wary of. Most of the dating agencies providing the service will ask for payment up-front to allow you to contact some of their clients. It is worth asking for references from other users before making any payment.

Once you have access to the site and start making contact, you still need to be aware that many are 'honey-traps' set for you to fall into. Some of the ladies will not be 'real', insofar as photos of a beautiful young lady will be displayed on the screen, behind which will lurk a scammer, usually with reasonable grasp of English, waiting to lure you into the trap.

The best way to avoid this pitfall is to stretch out the communication and wait for the moment when the subject of money will arise. When it does, the chances are you are being set up. You will probably be asked to send money by cash transfer to pay for: air fare to meet you; urgent medical treatment for your virtual date or their family, or money for a range of other reasons. My advice to you is to be careful, as you may be about to get scammed.

By trial and error, the chances are you will eventually meet someone on the net that won't ask you for money, which is a good, positive sign that they are likely to be genuine.

Finding a lady from former Soviet Union is always going to pose a risk. At some point you will feel positive about the lady you have met and you will want to meet her. This will usually require a significant investment in time and money. Obtaining a visa is an onerous task and can be time-consuming for some states. Make sure you don't book your flight until you receive your visa. If it's delayed for any reason you will probably lose the price of the air fare.

Hotels can be very expensive, especially in Moscow. It may be worth arranging to rent an apartment instead of paying for hotel.

Make sure your first trip to meet is not for too long. Book your trip for just a few days, or maximum of one week. If you don't hit it off then spending two-weeks on your own may leave you wishing you had not booked your trip for more than a few days!

The first meeting can be an extension of the honey-trap. I have spoken to people that have flown to Moscow and been fleeced by a woman that has conned them into asked going on expensive shopping trips, and for dinner at extortionately priced restaurants. If this happens to you then you need to spot the 'writing on the wall' and make your retreat as best you can.

I met my wife in Tashkent in Uzbekistan, which is a particularly repugnant, dictatorial, police state. The people are very friendly, generous and kind, but the administration is particularly difficult for westerner to tolerate and it can be quite scary! Make sure you do your homework on the country where you plan to travel before you decide to apply for the visa.

Assuming that you meet the woman of your dreams and you feel you are a good match, the natural conclusion will be that you will want her to come and live with you. This is where things really do start to get difficult. Obtaining visa is a minefield.

Many men are surprised to find out that you can't simply marry abroad and bring their new wife home, to both live happily ever-after!

The easiest and cheapest option is to apply for a tourist visa. This will require your lady to have evidence of income such as bank statements etc. As salaries are so low in Soviet countries this may prove very difficult to get, or be sufficient to satisfy the Embassy, which will jeopardize chance of getting a tourist visa.

It is possible to get a 'fiancée' visa. In the UK this will allow you to bring your lady to the UK and give you a chance to get to know each other before tying the knot. To obtain a 'fiancée' visa you will need to ensure you have kept full records of all your telephone and email contact, evidence of visits such as flight tickets, photos, room bookings. It is unlikely that you will get a 'fiancée' visa unless you have met previously.

You should not expect much assistance from Embassy staff. It is their job to make life as difficult as possible for you! Remember they can refuse your visa application for myriad of reasons, so ensure you do your research on what is required to avoid disappointment.

If you can overcome all the bureaucratic obstacles and eventually manage to get your lady back home to your country and marry, like me you will not regret the difficulties endured dealing with seemingly implacable Embassy staff and Government Agencies.

Bill Bailey is freelance writer and journalist. Bill is very happily married to Irina his beautiful Russian Bride! Bill's website is http://www.schnafflehound.com

Simple Dating Tips-russian Women

If you have decided to chance your luck with Russian women, congratulations, they are worth the extra effort involved. Equally it might be helpful to you to understand a little where these ladies are coming from. They are a little different ( I explain below how and why) and being aware of, or better still understanding these differences can save much misunderstanding. There are many truly gorgeous Russian ladies:- Go get yours.....

Russian and Ukrainian women are different and knowing these differences can significantly increase your chances of success. Why are they different and what are the differences? Because these countries were effectively closed to the rest of the world until relatively recently, these ladies have grown up and developed within systems devoid of foreign influences and this is very noticeable and in many ways attractive.

Here are some of the more notable differences. Dating Russian Women.

1. It is fair to say that in general moral and family values are higher here than in many areas of the world. The development of equality for women in these countries seems to have followed a different route, a different path and so many of these ladies are proudly feminine. They share no inhibitions in dressing, grooming and presenting themselves so as to highlight their feminism, sensuality and beauty.

2. Seeking the best education possible is for many the first priority and it is something taken very seriously. The education systems available are very good by any global standard and equally intelligence levels are way above global averages.

3. Having achieved their University diploma, or often during this period, thoughts of marriage and starting both a home and family begin to arise. They have been brought up to believe in a strong, secure and happy family as the basis of their happiness and for this reason will put unusual efforts into making and sustaining a happy and cosy home and relationship.

4. Once she has settled and established herself in her new life, her new culture and lifestyle, she will quite likely want to contribute in every way to her new life, her new family. No, you will find that many would actually prefer to in some way utilise their intelligence and contribute completely within their family unit.

5. In general these ladies are not wealthy, but equally, they are by nature very generous. The willingness to share that which undoubtably has required much effort and time to aquire is very attractive. No it is fair to say that for most aquiring material possessions is not a major part of their agenda. Again this is in general not true. Although equally they will seek a partner that is financially secure. It is fair to say they list priority of values as:- Kindness, honesty and generosity (of heart), a serious and responsible attitude, a sense of humour and a passion for life.

So how can this information help you in finding your Russian soul mate?

1. Congratulate her on her beauty, but do not dwell excessively upon this aspect solely. They know they are beautiful and in general seek a partner that will love them for what they are and who they are, not simply for their beauty.

2. Engage her intellect, exchange ideas, you will quite possibly be surprised that her viewpoint will be very different, valid and refreshingly interesting. As confidence and trust develops, encourage her to reveal her hopes and dreams, discover her values and what she really believes to be important.

3. The fact that you are in the fortunate position to try for a russian bride does by its nature indicate that you are financially secure. Clearly the expenses involved are incomparable to meeting the "girl next door". Reasure her that yes you are in a position to both help her move to your country and even more important help her establish her new life within your country. Remember she will be considering leaving her home, country and friends. She will need to feel very confident of both your love and your ability to help her start a new life in a new country.

4. Would you be happy for her to either continue her career in her new country, or find a new way of using her intelligence in finding a new occupation? Establish from her how she would like her future life to be and then work together with her in achieving these goals.

5. Be sensitive, if you have a huge house, car, or income let her discover it herself naturally. For the majority of these ladies a kind, open and generous heart is way more important than your material status. Remember that whilst these ladies are not wealthy they are very rich in many deeper and very attractive and admirable qualities.

There are many beautiful and smart Russian and Ukrainian ladies genuinely searching for love and a serious relationship and with care, luck, patience and respect you can find your perfect partner

Autor:Terrence Aubrey

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